Monday, January 4, 2010

One Year...

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Thank you for the messages of support- with tomorrow (the 5th) being the 1st anniversary of Coleman winning his fight and going to Heaven, I know people are wondering how we’re doing. I look back at the pictures of this time last year and just remember what a painful place we were in at that point.
I think about that night we drove home from Hospice- numb-
After walking in the door to a house where time stood still = Christmas presents still unwrapped- toys all over the floor- morphine bottles- medicine galore scattering the counter…his shoes laying there- Coleman’s things all around me- I hit the floor…I sobbed from the deepest part of me, like I’d never sobbed before- all that came out was a choked squeak, “I want him back…I WANT HIM BACK!” I sobbed until I could no longer breathe. I laid there on the floor until I had no tears left- my tear cup was empty…I pulled myself into our chair and sat and watched the sun come up…wondering how it could be possible that time could go on, when our whole world just ended.
How could I be saying I wanted him back, when two hours before I was telling him it was okay to go…that he could stop fighting so hard, that we’d be okay- we promised him. But at that moment, feeling the emptiness, I changed my mind…What was I thinking??? HOW were we going to do this? How was Caden ever, EVER going to make it without Coleman? How were WE going to be okay?
I typed out a big long update- reliving those last days- but decided to save it for my personal journal…because I’ve always wanted THIS page- Coleman’s page- to be about HOPE…something HE taught us. NEVA DIV UP. As painful as those memories are, we try our best to focus on the good times- the funny times- the love we shared in our time together…and that love goes on.

This past year has taught us so much…we’ve been to the bottom of the canyon. We’ve spent the last year doing our best to walk the long winding road up. It hasn’t been easy- sometimes we slip back down, but along the way we’ve managed to smile here and there- something we learned from Coleman…to make the most of what you’re given- even if it is “a buncha BULLSH!T”. Scott and I told Coleman we would never give up…that we’d be okay, and we’re working on it…one day at a time, and sometimes moment by moment. Caden has shown us the way…being so brave and keeping us smiling. He tells me HE misses Coleman more than anyone, and I always agree with him. I let him have that- they were twins- best friends- and truly the only friend either one had for so long.
Caden doesn’t know it has been a year tomorrow- I figured why tell him? We can’t let balloons go- the temp is WAYYYY too cold…we can’t visit the cemetery…the entrances are blocked with snow banks….but we celebrate Coleman’s life every day in one way or another, so I’ve avoided telling Caden what tomorrow marks. I don’t know if that’s the right decision, but it’s the one we made. Caden HAS been a little “down” the past couple of days- so it makes me wonder if he senses it…or maybe I’m just reading too much into things. Who knows….they always did have a bond we could never understand, so I don’t know.
We’ve had to learn to deal with our pain…We WILL be okay, it’s just hard to express how VERY much we miss him…and I know people say THIS day- THIS week -will be hard, but truly I don’t think it will be any harder than the days we’ve managed to get through so far, and the days ahead where I know it will hit us again like a ton of bricks. It’s a road we’re still walking, and I’m not sure we’ll ever see the top, until we are reunited with him again, but onward we climb…sometimes sitting down for a rest, but always getting back up- and yes, with one set of footprints sometimes. I promised Caden God would take care of us- and at times it was almost like I was trying to convince myself as much as him, but we’ve held on to that, and He HAS carried us, and continues to. I ask myself "how in the heck did we ever make it a year? I didn't think it was possible, but Coleman knew, "with DOD ALL FINGS ARE POSS-A-BULL!" and he was right, only by the grace of God. The sun continues to come up- and we continue to live, carrying all those lessons our Coleman taught us along with us….and thanking God for our blessings- each and every one of them.
Speaking of blessings, again, I have to say thank you to everyone for your support. We will never be able to express how grateful we are. AND if you’d like to do an act of kindness in honor of Coleman- we’d love to hear about it… For us- it helps to know his spirit lives on, and that he’s remembered. I know tomorrow I’ll once again go through a drive through and pay for the person behind me, just to remember how much he loved doing it…okay- for those who live around here- if you see me driving tomorrow, don’t tailgate me, waiting for me to pull in somewhere! :)
I’m going to repost my entry from last year, and the video from Cman’s celebration of life. A life we continue to celebrate…every day- with HOPE in our hearts. Oh were we blessed to have had this little boy in our lives. I’ll update on our holidays next time…until then-

Blessings to you all,

Before I post last year’s entry, here’s a video made by one of our “angels” Maisey…THANK YOU SO MUCH! And yes, the heart of life IS good…

Today the world may have cried a river of tears for a little boy’s life that ended way too soon, but we believe Heaven is REJOYCING over Coleman’s job well done.

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Coleman was an amazing child of God and we were so honored to be chosen as his parents.

He left this world at 10:45 last night- he fought HARD until the very end, not wanting to give up, but finally letting go. He was a warrior and a hero our hearts will forever miss. We had the most glorious five years together- a gift we will never forget.

A quick story. :)

One day Coleman heard someone say they were mad at God. He didn’t say a word, but later came to me with this complete look of disbelief on his face and asked, “mommy? did you hear them say they were mad at DOD? WHY would they say that?” He couldn’t even fathom the thought. Then he raised his little eyebrows and said, “well, I hope they don’t say that in PUB-WIC (public)!” and walked away. He knew there were some things he could not change, but HIS faith never wavered.

Lots of people have mentioned their anger toward God …how can He let this happen when so many people have been praying for Coleman? Why didn’t he answer our prayers?

I just can’t be angry at Our God who sent Coleman to us in the first place. Coleman was a child of God, WE were chosen to be his parents- and how blessed we were. Maybe my feelings will change, but like Coleman, I can’t imagine being angry at God. Would we have loved to have had more time with Coleman? YES! I want him back right now, but I know that’s the selfish part of me talking. I know I will hurt more than I can ever imagine in missing him…and I know I will have MANY days of heartache and anger, but my anger is over the fact we live in a world where we can do so much, but still do not have a cure for this horrific disease. Children are paying the price for that. More on that will come-

I guess what I’m saying is I know for a fact, Coleman would NOT want us to be mad at God. He taught us so much in his time here. His lessons will go on for a very long time. He knew where he came from and he knew where he was going. My heart aches for more time, but I’m SO thankful for the time we got with him, and we know we WILL be with him again. God doesn’t always answer our prayers in the way we want him to…HIS ways are not ours, and that’s hard to accept, but true. It doesn’t mean I don’t question it- it’s hard to understand, but one day we WILL know.

Many people have asked how Caden is doing. Now that’s a long story, but we have assured him that we love him. He is dealing the best way he can- just like us.

I turned my desk Praying Parent calendar today, and thought I’d share what it said…
“We are dependent on God to enable us to raise our child properly, and He will see to it that our child’s life is blessed. One thing I have learned is that I should not try to force my own will on my child in prayer. I have found it is better to pray more along the lines of “Lord show me how to pray for this child. Help me to raise him Your way, and may Your will be done in his life.”
I believe God’s will was done through Coleman. I know it.

Here is one of my favorite pictures of Coleman-
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God bless you baby. We love you so much.
Coleman said long ago, "some day I won't need NO more meds or pokes, wight mommy?”
No more sweetie. You are free.

One more story to share…thanks again Nadine.
The Parable of the Twins-

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Once upon a time, twin boys were conceived in the same womb. Weeks passed and the twins developed. As their awareness grew, they laughed for joy, “isn’t it great that we were conceived? Isn’t it great to be alive?”
Together the twins explored their world. When they found their mother’s cord that gave them life, they sang for joy, “how great is our Mother’s love, that she shares her own life with us!”
As weeks stretched into months, the twins noticed how much each was changing. “what does it mean?” asked the one. “It means that our stay in this world is drawing to an end, said the other. “But I don’t want to go”, said the other, “but maybe there is life after birth.” But how can there be?” responded the other one. “We will shed our life cord, and how is life possible without it? Besides, we have seen evidence that others were here before us and none of them have returned to tell us that there is life after birth. No, this is the end.”
And so the one fell into deep despair, saying, “If conception ends in birth, what is the purpose of life in the womb? It is meaningless! Maybe there is no mother after all?” “But there has to be,” protested the other. “How else did we get here? How do we remain alive?”
How you ever seen our mother?” said one. “Maybe she lives only in our minds. Maybe we made her up because the idea made us feel good?”
And so the last days in the womb were filled with deep questioning and fear. Finally, the moment of birth arrived. When the twins had passed from their world, they opened their eyes and cried for joy. For what they saw exceeded their fondest dreams.

Author Unknown

Blessings to you all,
Nev-va Div up-
Team Larson

And my all time favorite Coleman video…because this was just so him…A story of LOVE...Coleman’s beloved Bunny Foo Foo- he lost him during an MRI following his stem cell transplant, and SOMEHOW bunny found his way back…(UTUBE threatened to pull this because of the song used, but somehow it stayed up!)


  1. Second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day....whatever YOU need to do to get through each and every moment!
    I have to share this quickly. I am pretty sure Coleman is with me....For the most part I like to believe I am a caring, kind, giving and helpful person. I did something yesterday that I have not done before. I was leaving Walmart and look across the parking lot and see a lady trying to figure out how to cross over the snowbank to head into Target's parking lot. I looked at Col and told him I am going to offer her a ride, it is to cold out for someone to be walking. We left the parking lot, drove behind Target, I rolled down my window and asked, "Excuse me, but do you need a ride."
    She responded, "It's so cold out here" as she was walking toward the car, she says, "I usually don't do this, but it is so cold and I don't have a car."
    I looked at her and replied, "I usually don't do this either."
    We bothed laughed as she got into the car and chatted on the way home. I can't recall how many times she told me God bless you.
    For me this was not even thought about again, a small gesture, no biggie. BUT I was the one with a car, with heat and not out walking in it, trying to get myself and my purchases home. I have NEVER done anything like this before, unfortunately this world stops me from doing such and thing. I believe I had a higher power with me telling me it's ok! :o)
    I get home and am looking at the kids' toys. There sits an electric train set, it was given to the boys, by a very caring family! They play with it and really like it, but I know a special child that would LOVE this item. I sat the boys down and told them about my story. I said, "That there is a child that for atleast three years now has asked for a train set, like the one from the Polar Express. The child LOVES trains and would really enjoy having this one. I know you guys like it and have fun playing with it, but I think this child would appreciate it and have a BLAST with it. What do you say we give it to this child?"
    Bray looks at me, "That's fine, Mom. If it makes that child happy, that would make me happy!"
    Awww, melts my heart. So tomorrow, I guess that would be today, I am getting the phone number and speaking to the child's mother to make sure she is ok with such a gift.
    Again, I believe I try to help out where I can, but the things I did yesterday are just a little different. :o) I usually give away their toys, but last night, that train set just kinda jumped out at me. :o)
    I must be getting off this now and heading back to bed, I must be hoping for another late start tomorrow, since it is now 3:15 and I am up and on the computer. Can't sleep, I really don't like these nights! You are always in my thoughts and prayers! Forever a part of Team Larson and I will help you in the fight.....Neva Div Up!! You are missed and loved, Coleman.....FOREVER!!
    Much love to each of you,

  2. Peggy,
    It is hard to believe one year has passed already. Dear Coleman how I truly miss you. I miss your funny videos, silly stories, watching you argue with Tade and all of the fun filled adventures you shared together. I know your time here on earth was brief but you brought so much joy to the lives of those who got the chance to follow your journey. We cried, smiled and laughed along the way of your journey. We have many memories of your stories that we cherish and hold dear. Your family has been so brave this past year as they have grieved for you. Keep sending down more of your signs to let them know that you are never gone.

    {{{HUG}}}} to you Peggy! Keep walking that tight rope!

    Stef, Ryan, Wyatt and Logan Jacks

  3. I know you don't need me to tell you how very blessed you were to have that special gift in your lives for 5 years. But, I want to thank you for sharing that blessing with us.

  4. Many prayers and hugs for you all today and everyday as you walk this long and windy road. For sure, Coleman is a child of God and a person with such inspirational faith. I know he is up in Heaven smiling down on all of you.

    This past weekend my 7 year old daughter, Addison randomly pulled $5 out of her wallet and told me that she wanted to donate it. She wasn't sure where but just knew she wanted to so we decided we are going to donate it to CureSearch in memory of Coleman. I don't know if this $5 will find a cure but it is certainly a step in the right direction.

    Take care and hugs to you all.

    Blessings from CT,
    Kate Belcamino

  5. Peggy,
    It is SO hard to believe that one year has passed. I can't even imagine the feelings your family is going through but as always, your post was so uplifting and a true testament to God's will and power. Coleman touched my life in so many ways, more then I could ever imagine a stranger would. Coleman was one of the first "cancer kids" whos page I ever started following and since then I have come to know and love hundreds!!! I don't even have the words to say so I'll stop here, but just know that your family is always in my thoughts and prayers and your family has truly changed a strangers life FOREVER!!

    Thank you for sharing your lives with us.
    God bless!!!!

    Love and prayers,
    Christina Gomez

  6. You are continually in my thoughts and prayers. Coleman has affected my life so much. I think of him often and when I get to meet Jesus, I know Coleman will be right there, ready to greet me too. I so wish I was able to meet him before he left to be with his creator, but I know we'll get to exchange a few million hugs while we all sit side by side spending eternity together.

    My cheeks are stained but I know Coleman is free and happier than we could ever fathom. You are in my prayers and I know the Lord will continue to help you climb this mountain and pull you out of each valley you come accross. God bless you, and thank you for sharing Coleman with so many... he truly has impacted the WORLD.

    Until we meet, Coleman...

    COLEs Prayer Team
    LIndsay Manfull